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How to Improve Thinking in 3 Easy Steps


Want to learn how to improve thinking? You're in the right place.

First let's ask you this...

Do you ever experience any of the following?

  • Overthinking? Like your minds on overdrive? Even wake up exhausted because you couldn’t switch off?
  • Negative Thinking? Always thinking the worse? Thinking about negative thoughts?
  • Can’t concentrate? Too much brain fog?
  • And you’re not getting the results you want in life?

You're not alone.

We have too, and it SUCKS.

I went through a period in my life where I was overthinking EVERYTHING. I overthought every conversation and every choice made. This made me indecisive and slowed me down.

I was always thinking the worse, usually about myself. I was thinking about negative thoughts all the time. My thought process spiralled. I was self-deprecating to the point of suicidal ideation.

It was only when I hit rock bottom that I had a wakeup call and became AWARE of these thoughts. I knew they were there before I hit rock bottom but I wasn’t paying attention to them, I was buying into them as it they were me.

It was like I suddenly realised that I could tune in and out of different thoughts.

That’s when everything changed for me.

Read on to find out how or click here to watch a video instead ...

I worked with a coach who helped me to find ways to stop negative thoughts.

Show showed me how to improve thinking and it's easier than you might think.

She taught me that thoughts are just thoughts. Not only can we DECIDE which ones we tune into, I learned that thoughts are just thoughts.

They only hold power over us if we let them.

When we become aware and learn how to improve the quality of our thoughts (QOT)...

EVERYTHING can change.

As a result of our own personal experience, we’ve been able to master our quality of thinking.

We’ve done this through self-awareness, practice and deep studying.

Becoming certified has allowed us to coach others who want to refine their thinking. When they do, they perform at the highest levels and experience clear thinking and joy in life.

Our clients repeatedly tell us how much happier they feel once they get a grip on their QOT.

They feel energised. They're clearer on how they think and feel about themselves, their relationships and their futures.

You see, our self-talk determines how we feel.

And affects our ability to make healthy decisions.

I’m sure you can relate:

When we think about things in a helpful way - which are aligned with what we want - we get good results.

And when we think about things in unhelpful ways we don’t get the results we want, do we?

 

Our thoughts lay down a blueprint for what we’re going to experience.

Another important characteristic about our thoughts is that they PRECEDE OUR EMOTIONS

A lot of people think emotions come before thoughts but in actual fact the thoughts come first.

Think about a time where you were watching a scary movie, I bet you jumped at parts you were afraid of?

Or take a sad chick flick for example. The movie is so sad that it immerses you so well that you start to cry too.

Your body is having a physiological reaction because you are so captivated! This is because you are buying into the thought of the narrative you are watching.

This happens in everyday life too.

 

Our QOT plays apart in our health too. There have been so many studies which show those who ‘think’ they are healing - heal faster than those who don’t.

When we tell ourselves we are healthy, that's the directive we give to our subconscious.

Our thoughts are so powerful they can...

  • Increase life span
  • Decrease stress, anxiety and depression
  • Stop brain fog
  • Increase energy
  • Build resilience
  • Improve problem solving skills
  • Better cardiovascular health and reduced risk of dis-ease
  • Better psychological and physical wellbeing

The good news is…

Improving QOT is actually far easier than you might think…

But sometime people get sucked into outdated solutions like:

⁃ Believing we can STOP thinking, but we can’t. Our thoughts are there on repeat every single day and every single night. They will always be there, but you can learn how to manage them.

⁃ Positive Mental Attitude (PMA) & Affirmations. Although these methods can be helpful, they’re often exhausting. They only make a difference for as long as you are performing them.

It’s like putting a band aid over a bullet wound when we try to force ourselves to think positively. We then suppress what we really think and feel.

We must re-train what the original thoughts were in the first place.

The latest in modern science, and ancient wisdom, shows us that being resourceful is what helps us create genuine lasting change in our minds.

Resourceful thinking is critical to experience an enjoyable quality of life.

 

Here’s How To Improve Thinking in 3 Easy Steps:

These 3 steps will make your quality of thinking resourceful and stop negative thoughts:

Awareness is the key to change - Practice being the observer - tuning in like a radio.

Imagine your mind is like a busy highway, and your thoughts are just the traffic flowing through.

Now imagine a nice, slow country road, where traffic only comes through once in a while.

Allow your thoughts to come and go.

Improving the quality of our thinking requires us to update our inner dialogue by changing the way we talk to ourselves. This involves updating the words we use and how we formulate our language.

When you get accustomed to what's showing up you then get to learn what needs to change.

Identify the quality of your existing language. Highlight what specifically needs to change by asking this simple question:

“Is what I’m experiencing serving me?”

• If you answer YES – Do the needful to maintain it

• If you answer NO – Become aware of the thoughts that preceded and showed up during the experience so you can take action and change it.

 

 

Get specific about what you want to be experiencing with your thinking - instead of – what you don’t want.

For example: Saying I want to stop negative thinking is not enough. Which specific negative thoughts do you want to shift? If we don’t do this, it’s like saying I want to travel and then never getting specific about the destination and never booking the ticket.

Get specific.

Bonus Tips

  • It might be overwhelming at first so pay attention to dominant thoughts first
  • Keep a thought journal
  • Ask yourself if would you be happy if this thought became true instantly? Then what would you rather think/create instead.

Give these a try - and remember the key is to observe and try to improve a little each day. It’s not about being perfect. You’ll have days that are harder than other and that’s OK, that’s how we grow.

 

Journaling on your QOT as little as 10minutes a day means you can raise your awareness and reap the benefits already discussed.

Here’s a few ideas of what to journal on:

1. Reflect On Your Deepest Beliefs

Your beliefs are supporting your thoughts as they are allowing you to buy into them. When we follow though trails it can be because you believe something about them. This is an opportunity to check if these beliefs are serving you any more and change them if they aren’t.

 

2. Let Go Of Negative Emotions

Unwarranted, unresolved negative emotion can act as a fuel for our thinking. Just like in the same way actual fuel gives our car power. Take some time to let go of any toxic energy you are harboring, it can clear up your quality of thinking in an instant.

 

3. Picture Yourself Showing Up With The QOT you’d like

In a lot of cases we are identifying with ourselves as ‘negative or over thinkers’. When we believe it’s part of who we are then we act accordingly. When you paint a new self-image, you get to choose to show up like that instead. Sometimes our subconscious needs a new picture in our mind to follow to use as a guide.

 

Here’s the first thing to do once you finish listening to this:

Grab your wellness journal and score yourself on a scale of 1-5 (low-high), based on how your current reality.

Make a note of all the dominant thoughts that pop up. Ask if they’re serving you or not, and re-align your thinking to what will.

Use this measure to gauge how you’re progressing each day.

 

If you have any questions on quality of thinking, and how it’s affecting you feel free to reach out anytime.

Until next time,

Be Well, Mean Well, Make a Difference That Lasts,

Charlotte and Jonathan

AUTHOR


Charlotte Stebbing-Mills

Award Winning Stress Relief & Wellbeing Specialist

Co-Founder of The Wellness Theory

With 19+ years experience and her corporate success within the health, fitness and wellness industry, she has worked with hundreds of purpose-led individuals and organizations to move from surviving to thriving.

 

After burning out, she knows first-hand how it feels to feel like something is missing in life, to the point of hitting rock bottom and struggling to get back up again. Mastering the art of healing and high-performance simultaneously is no small feat. 

 

Charlotte can relate to how overwhelming it can be, but she'll also be the first to tell you that there is a way forward. Her own journey is proof that you can bounce back and create the life you always wanted, for yourself and those you love.


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